Published October 11, 2012 by Tony


It is  said that in our bedroom we can do what we wants. What happens in bed is something strictly private, especially if we refer to sex.  But, although we are not all the same, I think that what happens in bed not differentiate each other so much. Perhaps we are more different at the table or in dressing.  Apart from some special cases, most men do the same things when in bed with a partner, during a sexual intercourse. Beside, the average sex time is not as long as you’d think.
Tenderness, hugging, foreplay and then… the coitus, without or with some short break if he wants a longer intercourse.
Since the variables are different, it is not easy to establish an average in duration, although some statistics tell us that we are in a range between 15-30 minutes. But if we take into consideration only the duration of the copulation, excluding any other variable, even foreplay, then the statistics and polls become more precise and reliable.
According to a new study called “Canadian and American Sex Therapists’ Perceptions of Normal and Abnormal Ejaculatory Latencies“, a coitus lasts anywhere from three to seven minutes. This is as a physiological factor.
This data corresponds closely to other studies, which put the average of the pure intercourse at five to seven minutes. Few people have intercourse that goes longer than 10 minutes.
Differently from popular fantasy about the need for hours of sexual activity…or about some men pretending pretentiously to be as a train’s long-ride with no stop.
Men who are able to have a double ejaculation with no “recovery time” or  physiological pause, so that they can carry on the sexual act without stopping, can be counted on fingertips. After ejaculation, the recovery time after which every man is again able to excite and have a new erection, varies from person to person and can range from a few minutes to many… many hours.

Unfortunately, today’s popular culture has reinforced stereotypes about sexual activity. Many men and women seem to believe the fantasy model of large penises, rock-hard erections and all-night-long intercourse… absurd.
Luckily, if a guy is concerned about how long intercourse should last, these data reassure him and avert the thought of some physical disorders.
On Wikipedia, under the voice “Sexual intercourse”, we can read “Intercourse ends when the man has ejaculated…. Masters and Johnson found that men took about 4 minutes to reach orgasm with their partners while women took about 10–20 minutes to reach orgasm…. In 1991 the Kinsey Institute stated, “The truth is that the appropriate length for intercourse is the length of time it takes for both partners to be mutually satisfied”.
This means that it is useless, if not even annoying, if sexual intercourse lasts much longer than woman’s needs to be satisfied. Many studious consider a time of 20 min. the most appropriate for most women. It is supposed that you know your partner’s needs and you should try to adapt yourself to her.
Those who want to reach a long ‘screw’, beyond foreplay or various break, must understand that sex is done with the head before it by their body. Therefore they must control their behavior and emotions. A simple way to do this is to divert the mind when they feel that “their time” is about to expire… before the ejaculation arrives. Although quite unromantic, they need to think about things that are so important to overpower and take precedence over the sweet and pleasant sensations that sex is giving them on that moment. I do not know now, but think about bills, bickering with the boss or to the poor state of health of a family member, for example. It requires only a minute, the right time to “cool the ardor” without losing  the erection or the wish to go on. If you are able you can repeat, after some time, this gimmick. Someone also finds useful slowing down through very small-pauses, switching positions and varying the speed and pattern of his thrusts. By these simple gimmicks and adding 10 min. (as average) for prior foreplay, most guys can get a satisfying intercourse lasting 30 minutes even.

I forgot to say that the “time” or “duration” of which we are speaking about, also depends on the age of the person. In general, the stimulus, the sensitivity of the penis, as the reaction times decrease with age, and this involves a small increase in the time required to achieve ejaculation. As a middle-aged person, I now can confirm that this statement is true and made me happy because I have never liked foreplay and my partner had to make do with my “to-and-fro” never higher than 15 min. From long, with no ploy, I can reach the half-hour.
About glans, those who suffer from premature ejaculation, since youth and who are not circumcised, could receive a benefit accustoming themselves to keep the penis constantly “open” (with the foreskin pulled up) in their briefs. Over time, the glans slowly will lose in sensitivity.


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