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Published March 3, 2013 by Tony


Lucio Dalla

“Large sheets to cover ourselves I do not have…. and if life has no dreams I’ll take them and give to you”

Today is your birthday… best wishes to you, Lucio!

Lucio Dalla (Bologna, March 4, 1943 – Montreux, 1 March 2012) was a musician and a popular Italian singer-songwriter.
Nobody expected it and the morning of 1 March 2012, by a heart attack at age 69 in the Ritz Hotel in Montreux, where he had performed the night before, Lucio left us, with discretion but too soon!

Throughout his long career, which reached fifty years of activity, he has also performed as a keyboardist, saxophonist, and playing the clarinet, his passion from an early age.His extensive artistic production has gone through many phases, from the beat to the rhythmic and musical experimentation, from the songwriting till the boundaries of classical music and opera. Lucio Dalla was also an author known abroad with some of his songs translated and brought to success in several languages, in addition to many duet with artists, nationally and internationally.
Its success takes root in 1971, when for the third time he participated at the Festival of Sanremo with the song “4/3/1943” (his birthdate), a censored song initially called “Gesù Bambino” (Baby Jesus), and that talks about a girl mother, who has a son with an unknown ally soldier.
The success was consolidated the following year when still in Sanremo he sang the touching “Piazza Grande“, dedicated to a homeless man in Bologna, his beloved hometown where he lived. The city that in 1999 gave him an honorary degree in “Arts and Lucio DallaPhilosophy”.
During his career he has worked with numerous artists, Gino Paoli, Luigi Tenco, Roberto Roversi, Francesco De Gregori, the Stadio, Ron, Gianni Morandi, through whose collaboration many of his songs were born.
In March 1986 the tour with the group “Stadio”, for a series of concerts abroad, culminated with performances in the United States from which the double live album “Dallamericaruso.” arose. In this album is the song “Caruso”, that recounts the last days of the great tenor, and that will give to the singer from Emilia-Romagna, an extraordinary success. The song, which has sold nearly 9 million copies worldwide, is now considered a classic of Italian music. Over the years, the song has been interpreted by many artists of various nationalities, including Mercedes Sosa, Celine Dion, Michael Bolton, Lara Fabian, Julio Iglesias, Andrea Bocelli and Luciano Pavarotti. The song translated into several languages, to date, has sold over 38 million copies worldwide. The singer has repeatedly explained the genesis of this song: “a song of the heart,” born from an intense and unexpected trip in Sorrento. Because of a boat broken, he was forced to stop along the Sorrento coastline, in the same hotel and room where years before the great tenor Enrico Caruso had died.
Lucio’s mother was originally from Puglia, where the singer often went, and here his love for the South and especially for the sea was born, to the point to spend every summer at Tremiti Isles, as well as Lucio loved Naples, where often he docked his boat. In fact, in 1997 he was awarded the “Honorary Citizenship” from the town of Sorrento. Once he said: “I have been influenced by the existence of Totò (note, the Neapolitan artist Antonio De Curtis Gagliardi), in all its forms, for me he was a myth. The beauty of Totò is the beauty of Naples. Naples, not easy to say, seems a city, but is not, it is a nation, a republic….. the admiration I have for Naples’s people was born out by this love for Totò…. Naples is the mystery of life, good and evil are mixed, but pulsate however“. About his love for the South, in an interview he said: “It was during these vacations as an emigrant backwards, which took place in me the split between two different ways of living. So today I have two souls: the northern one (orderly, efficient, futuristic, perfectionist, demanding to themselves and to others) and southern (disorganized, wild, sensual, dreamy, mystical), it is in the south that I became religious, of a religion frantic, irrational“.
Marco AlemannoFrom February 2007 began a collaboration with Marco Tutino, artistic director of the Teatro Comunale of Bologna, for the preparation of some opera and theater works, and it is here that the long-lasting friendship with Marco Alemanno, becomes more apparent. The Lucio Dalla “different” sexual orientation was known to his few close friends and not to the public, at least not officially. Although because of his success he had the “prigs” (fucking moralists) in the palm of his hand, Lucio remained silent, refusing to declare his homosexuality, fearful of the moralists’ judgment, as if, on the contrary, they were to have him on a string. That is why he had to “disguise” his feelings in the songs, sometimes inventing female names and faces of fantasy. He gave and inspired emotions, hiding his own ones.
Marco Alemanno, born in 1980, left his small town to pursue his passion for art in the city of the great Lucio Dalla, where their paths crossed to then separate tragically on March 1st of 2012. Marco followed him in every show and in every battle. In 2007, Marco appears on Lucio Dalla album “Il Contrario di me” (The opposite of me), as producer and co-author of some texts. The following year, he publishes “Gli occhi di Lucio” (Lucio’s eyes), a book with a DVD-written with Lucio and containing Dalla photographs and unpublished writings. Marco appears again in 2009 as artistic producer and co-author of some songs in the album “Angoli nel cielo” (Angles in the sky), and the year after participated in Dalla & De Gregori tour “Work in progress”, as singer and narrator.
Marco Alemanno has gained a lot of notoriety for the moving words with which he reminded Lucio on the occasion of his funeral in Bologna. His talk brought some controversy about the fact that the singer had never formalized his relationship with him, while the Catholic Church has condemned his intervention during the funerals in church. In his funeral speech, Mark has played some verses of the song by Lucio “Le Rondini” (The Swallows): “I would like to understand, in short, what love is, where is that you take and give it”.  Then, before bursting into tears, adding: “For some time now I had the pleasure, honor and privilege to grow alongside Lucio, singer, musician, filmmaker, and above all the man, eternal child, to whom I owe so much.

Since the singer did not leave a will, his inheritance, estimated at approximately 100 million euros, will be divided between his five first cousins. In the absence of a specific bequest, Marco Alemanno, intimate partner and resident in the same house for several years, has no legal rights.

I want to highlight that, although the ‘coming out‘ is a something useful and liberating for themselves and for those who are less strong, we cannot expect it to be a mandatory practice. People are different, have different thoughts and stories, and there are no rules with regard to their privacy. It would be nice and fair that we all take for granted that love, joy & sorrow’s sharing, and humanity were fixed rules regardless of our beliefs. And then “everyone will love how it goes,” as our dear friend Lucio sang and hoped.

Although the discography of this great songwriter includes twenty-two studio album for the Italian market, a Q Disc, nine live albums, several books and albums for the foreign market, among the many beautiful songs that Lucio has left us, and in addition to those already mentioned, I want to mention: L’Anno che verrà, Attenti Al Lupo, Anna E Marco, Tu Non Mi Basti Mai, Come E’ Profondo il Mare, Caro Amico Ti Scrivo, Stella Di Mare, Disperato Erotico Stomp, L’Ultima Luna, Telefonami Tra Vent’anni, Un Uomo Come Me, Cara, Nuvolari, Il Gigante e La Bambina, Balla Balla Ballerino, Futura.  (The Year to come, The Wolf, Anna and Mark, I Just Do not You Never Come and ‘Deep Sea, Dear Friend I am writing, Star of the Sea, Erotic Stomp, The Last Moon, Call me Between Twenty years, A Man Like Me, Honey, Nuvolari, The Giant and The Child, Dance dance Dancer, Futura).

Here’s the literal translation of his words showed in the picture below the title.

“Of many houses, not any one that has no windows, any shred of sky over the roofs of the city, where I lived and where I listened, checked, tried the beating of your heart, your breaths, your curses, the noise of your dreams, the mysterious small daily killings and the miraculous births that every day God sends us and which take place under the skies of all countries and of all the cities on overcast nights of stars. It is from there that have fallen words, stones, stories and sounds that arrive to me by the beautiful deception of love that never ends, or the sensuality of the best encounters, those dreamed, those where there are no more break ups, where you don’t die or die is just disappearing under a sweet, lovely snowfall. It is from that glimpse of heaven and heart that I will listen to you even when no one will listen to me, that I’ll still be looking for you although you will not be looking for me anymore. And from up there, until there will be a window, my heart will sing the life and story that takes it.”


Dear Lucio, although I respect your discretion and silence, I would have liked if you had had the courage to shout to the world your “diversity“, because coming from a great man like you, this would tell someone else that there is no “diversity” as these others still think.



Published February 7, 2013 by Tony



In Naples, the first football team with gay players is born.
The idea came, more than a year ago, to a Neapolitan actor, George Sorrentino, a football fan, who, with the intent to organize a five-a-side football team, began to look for other gay players on social networks frequented by Neapolitan homosexuals.
After receiving more than thirty accessions, the actor was able to finally form a futsal team which he called “Pochos” (a word which means kids in Argentine), team which officially was presented yesterday during a presentation to the “Pinguin cafe” in Naples, with the presence of journalists, the head of Arci Gay sports of Naples and the presenter Cecchi Paone, who long ago had the courage to make a public coming out.
The name “Pochos” was chosen in honor of the former football player of Napoli Ezequiel Lavezzi, who was nicknamed the “pocho” by Napoli fans and that since he is playing in France, has been chosen as the sexiest player by a Ezequiel LavezziFrench gay magazine.
Beyond the sport, this initiative arises mainly because in the world of sport, and football in particular, sexuality is still taboo, with too many cases of homophobia around.
The same silence that usually circulates in racing circles, about the sexual orientation of the players, is indicative of fear and prejudice, someway a symptom of violence.
As Sorrentino says: “In football, players are afraid to declare their sexual inclinations. We do not want to fight prejudice, because otherwise we got ghettoized, but we want to play football with the participation of both gay and ethers, and convince everyone that when you score a great goal, the sexual orientation of those who scored it is not a matter.”
T-shirts, created for the occasion, will have drawn a stylized Vesuvio with a rainbow, in the hope of a “nice time” after the “storm”.


Published October 6, 2012 by Tony

Cruz’s gayness cause a stir

The featherweight boxer Orlando Cruz becomes first in history of boxe to come out as gay while still competing.
The Puerto Rican, who is currently ranked No.4 in the world by the WBO did a historic revelation, he is relieved about his decision but had initial reservations, and in an interview said: “In this sport that is so macho, I kept this hidden for many, many years. I’ve been fighting for more than 24 years and as I continue my ascendant career, I want to be true to myself. I want to try to be the best role model I can be for kids who might look into boxing as a sport and a professional career. I have always been and always will be a proud gay man“.  He praised his mother and sister for their unconditional love and said his father has always backed him, adding: “Like every father, he wants his son to be a full-blooded man, but he is aware of my preference and taste”.
Since boxing as American football is a strong sport where masculinity must prevail, an individual can’t be gay, that’s the common assumption or the homophobic point of view. Again the homosexuality considered as a disorder or handicap.
OMG, why don’t scientists create a vaccine against such an unacceptable mind-set?
Yet, there are historical precedents as the case of Emile Griffith,  with the hope that the warning given to us by Justin Fashanu, will be useful for something.
Being surprised that a gay boxer exists is a little like being surprised that gay people exist, independently from their activity, as well as gay activity exists in prisons, the army or boarding school dormitories.
As Yahoo’s Kevin Iole writes, “a sad sign of the lack of progress in our society that, when Cruz issued a statement on Wednesday admitting his sexual orientation, it was news.
Many people have turned up their nose at this news, while others, for sure, will not watch at his next matches.

My dear homophobe or ignorant friend, put well in your head that, long as there is mankind, there will be  gay people, whether they are workers, teachers, actors, singers or sports celebrities. This’s normal and so must be considered!

Not long ago, the gentlemanly Italian national football manager Cesare Prandelli told something about homosexuality and sport, because in the world of football and of sport in general, there is still a taboo around gayness, while everywhere everyone ought to live freely with themselves, their desires and feelings.


Daniel Zamudio

Published April 28, 2012 by Tony

Another victim of the discrimination


Daniel Zamudio Vera, a 24-year-old Chilean man, has died after almost a month in the hospital after a vicious hate attack he suffered at the hands of a group of suspected neo-Nazi on March 3, 2012. It all started on a Saturday early in the morning in a Santiago park, close to a police station and a park secured by guards. A group of thugs massacred Daniel that was hanging out there, beacuse he was gay. They tortured him for six hours and nobody saw anything. Damn, how is it possible?! One out of the four aggressors is said to be a neo-Nazi. The rest, a mixture of ill-bred misfits. But today, all of them are accused of participating in one of the most savage assaults ever seen in Santiago. As the aggressors refer, they hit him  with “kicks, punches in the head, face, testicles, legs, and all over the body”. Then one of them  tattooed three swastikas with the neck of a bottle that they broke minutes before on his head.
The Anti-Discrimination Law that has been stuck in Congress for seven years has come back as a trending topic after the attack on Zamudio. There has even been a request to call it Zamudio Law [es] and to carry on the discussion at the Parliament’s Mixed Commission after the last vote that took place in November 2011.

I’m against death penalty but in such cases my belief wavers!

Daniel Zamudio was the second of four children born in 1987 in the town of San Bernardo, a district located just south of Santiago, the Chilean capital. By the time he was about 13 years old, his family realized Daniel was homosexual. However, he did not openly admit his sexual orientation until age 17. Daniel’s relationship with his family was good, although not free from conflict with his father who apparently did not accept his son was gay. In 2003, after his parents separated, Daniel went to live with his mother and grandmother. At age 17, he fell into a deep depression triggered by the suicide of his best friend. Unable to cope with the tragedy, he became emotionally instable, neglected his studies and finally he quit high school. Until recently in 2012, he was working as a clerk in a Chinese clothing store with the intention of saving some money to resume regular schooling and to take modeling and acting lessons. His goal was to pursue a career in communications and eventually to start a family and become a father. Daniel regularly attended LGBT (gay, lesbian, bisexual and trans-sexual) oriented nightclubs and more than once mentioned to friends that he had been harassed by strangers when he was leaving the venues. On March 2, Daniel went to work as usual at 7:30 a.m. He told his family that he would meet a friend in the evening and would be home late. He did not return. On Sunday, his family reported his disappearance to the Chilean Police. They managed to identify him as the young man who had been admitted the day before to Santiago’s Posta Central Hospital. Daniel had been found by a policeman around 4:00 a.m. without ID documents, badly injured and unconscious. He was found in “San Borja” Park which is located along the Alameda, a main thoroughfare in downtown Santiago. Daniel’s injuries were so severe that the medical team at Posta Central decided to place him into an induced coma. His head and body had been brutally beaten. Part of one ear had been cut, his legs were broken and he had cuts resembling swastikas on his chest and back. Several cigarette burns were found in different parts of his body. On March 19 his condition worsened and on March 27 Daniel died.

Despite the vitality of a young man, he probably preferred to leave this world, a world unfair, bad and rotten for a better one. Daniel, forgive us and may God rest your soul!


Published November 23, 2011 by Tony

Rugby player becomes gay after an accident

"Ambiguous Desires" of Evgeny Mokhorev

"Ambiguous Desires" of Evgeny Mokhorev

It happened to a former English rugby player of 26 years: – after having had a stroke for a freak accident while training, in which he had broken his neck – Chris Birch woke up gay. “I’m happier than ever, I would change one iota”, the young man told to the Telegraph, explaining that as soon as he recovered, his life changed beginning to have a relationship with a man.

I confess, after reading this curious news I had to laugh, because personally think it is a very unlikely event. At first glance I thought, “It was just a ploy for the guy to coming out, declaring his sexuality and sweeten family and friends judgment”.
As if to say: “He is gay, but not for his fault, it was the unfortunate incident to give him trouble!”
The same applies to other similar news affirming that someone suddenly found himself with a different sexuality. Absurd!
My beliefs are based on scientific data. Debunked for years (thank goodness!) the belief that homosexuality is a disease, long since most scientists agree to attribute the causes of homosexuality to a mixture of biological (genetic), psychological and environmental (prenatal and postnatal) factors, although it still is difficult to quantify separately the various influences. It isn’t, therefore, a matter simplistically only mental or of options occurring during the critical stages of the development, because a priori there is already a well-defined genetic and psychological orientation that, willy-nilly, brings people “to prefer” a sexuality rather than another. Thus, no matter what anyone says or thinks, no one becomes gay at once, and neither after an illness or an accident. If so, it will go back to the ancient assumption that homosexuality is just a  “mental” issue and if it really was so, most of psychologists and psychiatrists, by few sessions, could have healed, long since, a myriad of gay subjects. A validation of this, the fact that no gays in the history has ever “regained” the “normal” sexuality with or without treatment.
Today news travels fast, thanks to the internet too, so we know many more things and facts, that take place in the world, than ever before. Do you remember the case of the boy who already at 6 years old confessed to parents to feel like a “girl” inside. But we can find many other similar cases on internet, such as the recent about Bobby Montoya a seven years old kid who prefers women’s clothing and asked parents to enrol in the “Girl scout”. If these cases do not confirm what has already been widely assumed, namely that homosexuality, as sexuality in general, has a genetic basis, then it means to be blind and biased on this topic that should not even make headlines or dismay because sexuality, whatever it is, must be accepted and understood first. The words “different” or “normal”, usually used, must disappear. When it will come to this, the society will then have taken the right way for that change we are looking for a long time and never put into practice, with no need of tormented “coming out” or other incidents to let other accept a “natural” sexuality