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Omnisexuality

Published November 8, 2014 by Tony

 

_CUDDLE PUDDLE_
Sexual Freedom

 

Reading a few articles around, I noticed that some psychologist or educator is concerned about the “new” sexual orientation of some today’s youth.
Beyond the tendencies poles apart (heterosexuality and homosexuality,) in the middle there are others that are often defined by the term Pansexuality.
Omnisexuality or pansexuality is sexual attraction, sexual desire, romantic love, or emotional attraction toward people of any sex or gender identity. Young people who self-identify as pansexual assert that gender and sex are insignificant or irrelevant in determining whether they will be sexually attracted to others.
For many, this “post-gay” trend is related to the use-abuse of stimulants and antidepressants, a sexual utopia that would hide the discomfort of the “Cuddle Puddle’s proponents.” Insecure teens or heavily marked by the failure of other relationships…. maybe!

For some “pundits” of these days the search for identity begins  among school’s desks, where our teenagers, between a class and another, engage in sexual relations with peers – and this would seem fine to them – and according to their opinion, the trouble would start when teenagers do not make any difference in dealing with male or female.  What? Why?
Perhaps in some cases it is a challenge in themselves, but as always we cannot be so generalist.
Honestly, I cannot understand why, like many other things, sexuality has to be identified, labelled, categorized, and criticized unless it complies with what society presumes must be its “appropriate” course.
Who of us established or decides what is the correct sexuality for human beings?
Unluckily, whatever is human is uncertain and not absolute, including some rules. For certain complicated things, like sexuality, who are we to judge and criticize?
Like other mental affairs, sexuality is a very complicated issue that can’t be governed, beyond not being in some cases a choice.

Pansexuality rejects the gender binary, the “notion of two genders and indeed of specific sexual orientations”, as pansexual people are open to relationships with people who do not identify as strictly men or women. We can assume that it is an evolution of bisexuality prevalent among young people in the late 60’s and that until recently was considered cutting-edge and quite common among aristocrats.
Camille Paglia promoted bisexuality as an ideal. Harvard Shakespeare professor Marjorie Garber made an academic case for bisexuality with her 1995 book “Vice Versa: Bisexuality and the Eroticism of Everyday Life,” arguing that most people would be bisexual if not for repression and other factors such as lack of sexual opportunity. In “Scientific American Mind”, scientist Emily V. Driscoll stated that homosexual and bisexual behavior is quite common in several species and that it fosters bonding: “The more homosexuality, the more peaceful the species”. The article also stated: “Unlike most humans, however, individual animals generally cannot be classified as gay or straight: an animal that engages in a same-sex flirtation or partnership does not necessarily shun heterosexual encounters. Rather, many species seem to have ingrained homosexual tendencies that are a regular part of their society. That is, there are probably no strictly gay critters, just bisexual ones. Animals don’t do sexual identity. They just do sex:  a normal thing.
Well, apart from this scientific considerations or studies, shouldn’t  the equal rights and freedom involve our sexual tendencies too?!

SEX BENEFITS

Published December 15, 2013 by Tony

20 REASONS TO HAVE SEX

After reading this article you’ll realize that sexual activity is comparable to a sport, better than a drug, but more fulfilling and without side effects. One of the latest scientific studies on sex, led by Barry Komisaruk (University of New Jersey), who for ten years has been studying how neurons affect pleasure, says that an orgasm works better than a sudoku or other mental exercises, avoiding their degradation.
In the light of the findings conducted to date, it seems that sex is the panacea for many ailments, especially those due to aging, from the immune system to the heart, from the skin to the bone, and… up your mood!
And, in light of all these researches, old and new, in the points listed below you find 20 good reasons not to give up sex, and indeed to have it more frequently.

1 . ENHANCES FERTILITY
One more intense sexual activity improves the quality of male sperm. Similarly, sex also regulates female hormones, increasing the chance of conceiving.

2 . FIGHTING THE COLD
Having sex a couple of times a week increases 30% the levels of immunoglobulin A, an antibody that protects against infections.

3 . KEEPING YOUNG
According to a study by David Weeks of the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, men and women, with an active sex life, look from 5 to 7 years younger than their biological age.

4 . A NATURAL LIFTING
Sex increases the production of estrogen, a hormone that helps to keep the skin young. Hormone that unfortunately decreases after menopause.

5 . IMPROVE FITNESS
Sexual activity increases 5 times the levels of the natural hormone DHEA, which is considered the hormone of youth.

6 . LIFE EXPECTANCY
An Australian research suggests that three orgasms a week reduces mortality more than in people having one orgasm a week.

7 . MITIGATE THE PAIN
In many women, sexual activity reduces muscle tension of the uterus, relieving pain due to the menstrual cycle.

8 . LOWER THE PRESSURE
As in any sport or physical activity, even sex fights hypertension in both sexes.

9 . PREVENTS HEART ATTACK
A regular sexual activity (three times a week according to the Queen’s University of Belfast), remove cardiovascular problems and prevents stroke. Another Israeli study indicates that in women more sexually active the risks of myocardial decrease by 30%.

10. INCREASES THE SEDUCTION
The frequent sexual activity promotes the production of pheromones, chemicals that, like in animals, help to attract a partner.

11. CONTRASTING TO DEPRESSION
Similarly to the sport, sexual activity causes the release of endorphins and serotonin, neurotransmitter and hormone that have to do with pleasure and satisfaction.

12. BOOSTS THE SELF-ESTEEM
One University of Texas study shows that one of the psychological benefits of sex is to increase people self-confidence.

13. REDUCES THE INCONTINENCE
Sexual activity strengthens the muscles of the pelvic floor (urinary-genital area). Typically, these muscles relax with age and after menopause.

14. PREVENTS HEADCAHE
Sex also has an analgesic effect due to increased levels of oxytocin. The same hormone that helps to decrease the pain of childbirth.

15. FIGHTS INSOMNIA
Oxytocin, released during and after sex, gives a relaxing effect helping to sleep.

16. STRENGTHEN BONES
The increase of estrogen, resulting from a regular sexual activity, helps to prevent osteoporosis in postmenopausal women.

17. PREVENT PROSTATE CANCER
A constant sexual activity after age 50, it decreases the risk of prostate cancer.

18. IMPROVES MOOD
According to dr. Debby Herbenick, sex in the morning does improve mood during the whole day.

19. ANTI-STRESS
A study of “Psychological Journal” states that sexual activity causes the decrease of cortisol, the stress hormone.

20. Finally, if all this is not enough for you, please know that 30 minutes of sex burns about 100 grams of calories, and most importantly, if you are imaginative and change positions in bed, it is as if you are doing physical activity, toning your body’s muscles.

CIRCUMCISION

Published June 30, 2013 by Tony

CUT or UNCUT?

In Africa, where HIV cases are very numerous and for years the contagion takes its toll without stopping, years ago a study among subjects circumcised and uncircumcised pointed out that circumcision led to a lower risk of infection.
The news went around the world and since then many doctors of any nationality, without posing the question, sided in favor of circumcision recommending it to all, as a method of HIV prevention and other urinary infections. Among them, the American Academy of pediatric that from long recommends all families the circumcision for all males newborn.
Fortunately, a lot of pediatricians and urologists, as Italians, have a different view and practice circumcision for therapeutic purposes only and exclusively for the correction of Phimosis, a common children pathology characterized by an abnormal narrowing of the foreskin, and only as a last-resort when the conventional medical therapies are not successful.
I say “fortunately” and there’ll explain why.
Apart from the fact that not all of us live in Africa or in countries where HIV is so widespread, to defend themselves effectively by this disease, there are also other better methods. Most HIV infections in Africa are transmitted by contaminated injections and surgical procedures. In  the studies, the effects of other variables that would influence HIV infection were not considered, and critical data were omitted. For example, the HIV status of the female partners of the men was not determined. It was not known which infections were heterosexually transmitted, the effect of circumcision on the rate of heterosexually transmitted HIV could not actually be determined. There are at least 17 observational studies that have not found any benefit from male circumcision in reducing HIV transmission. Among developed countries, the United States has the highest circumcision rate and the highest rate of heterosexually transmitted HIV. Other countries have lower rates of HIV infection than the United States and do not practice circumcision.
In addition, we must consider that the Postectomia surgery is not without risks, and although the incidence is low (0.1 to 35%) there may be complications such as pain, difficulty urinating, local edema, bleeding, flaws, fistula and complications to the penis.

Beyond HIV, circumcision was already widespread in some countries for religious reasons, but this is another story also questionable.
Our Lord has created us as we are and there was no reason to include some organ that was a simple plus. From an evolutionary and physician perspective, every organ in the human body has its specific task and nothing is to be considered as superfluous, beyond what the different cultures and religions suggest or require.
Therefore, the foreskin of the penis was not put there by accident and has its own importance.
One of the major side effects that many
circumcised people complain, it is the reduction of overall sensitivity, due to the loss of erogenous tissue. There is a less manageability of the penis, masturbation difficulties, numbness of the glans (which remaining exposed, it is no longer protected from rubbing on clothing), and of the frenulum (for many the most important for the purposes of pleasure), resulting in difficulty orgasmic. Refractory periods (recovery time) become longer and it’s necessary a stronger stimulation of the tissues, which “stressed” can make painful and frustrating the sexual intercourse and masturbation.

In all countries where circumcision is uncommon (like Europe, Argentina, Belize, Bolivia, Brazil, Chile, Colombia, Costa Rica, Cuba, Ecuador, Jamaica, Paraguay, Peru, Uruguay and Venezuela), there was not an increase of HIV cases that can be attributed to lack of circumcision. American researchers tend to avoid studying or acknowledging the sexual and psychological harm associated with circumcision. This pro-circumcision bias in American medicine reflects the pro-circumcision bias in American culture. The United States is the only country in the world that in most cases circumcises some of its male infants for non-religious reasons.

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Here are ten compelling arguments against circumcision:

Argument #1
The foreskin is natural, necessary and important.
Far from an unnecessary extra flap of skin, the foreskin is actually a highly sensitive and functional organ that serves several important purposes. First, the glans or head of the penis is meant to be an internal organ and the foreskin covers and protects it from harm in much the same way as the eyelid protects the eye. In circumcised males, the glans becomes hardened or keratinized by constant exposure and irritation, which reduces sensitivity. The foreskin itself is a highly sensitive erogenous zone and has more nerve receptors and a greater variety of nerve receptors than any other part of the penis.

Argument #2
Most medical experts do not recommend neonatal circumcision.
There is no medical justification for routine infant circumcision. The purported correlations between an intact foreskin and various diseases and problems that circumcisers have used for years to convince parents to let them cut their newborns have been gradually disproved or shown to be insignificant.
A detailed breakdown of the connections— or lack thereof—between circumcision and conditions such as penile and prostate cancer, urinary tract infections, sexually transmitted diseases including HIV/AIDS, phimosis, balanitis xerotica obliterans (BXO) and even cervical cancer in female partners, is beyond the scope of this article, but parents should be aware that the American Academy of Pediatrics states that, “The existing scientific evidence is not sufficient to recommend routine circumcision,” and the Canadian Paediatric Society confirmed their stance in 1996 that, “Circumcision of newborns should not be routinely performed.”

Argument #3
The penis is naturally self-cleaning and proper hygiene is easy to teach and perform.
The foreskin protects the glans from contaminants and debris. An intact foreskin can also produce a natural moisturizing substance with antibacterial and antiviral properties called smegma, which helps keep the glans soft and the penis clean and healthy.
When a baby boy is born, the foreskin is actually attached to the glans to shelter the developing glans from harm. Some doctors still suggest that parents should forcibly retract a baby’s foreskin in order to clean it, but there is no need to do so. The foreskin will naturally detach from the glans as the boy ages and eventually he’ll be able to retract it. Pulling back the foreskin in the shower or bath and rinsing it with warm water is all the cleaning an adult requires in this area. Surgical alteration is hardly necessary to keep the penis clean when warm water and soap are readily available.

Argument #4
Circumcision affects sexual function and desensitizes the penis.
Removing a highly sensitive organ like the foreskin will logically reduce sensation in the genital area. In fact, this point was touted in Victorian times as a benefit of the operation. Masturbation was then thought of as a grave sin and a serious health risk, to blame for nearly all diseases. Since circumcised boys would receive less pleasure from sexual stimulation, they would be less likely to engage in the evil of masturbation.
The foreskin facilitates sexual intercourse by allowing the penis to move in and out of the vagina in its own double-layered sheath of movable skin. Circumcised males lack the self- lubricating properties of the foreskin, which creates friction during intercourse that can result in small tears and bleeding in both the man and woman. Artificial lubricants have been developed largely to make up for the function of the foreskin in circumcised men. The long-term effects of these chemical lubricants are not known.

Argument #5
He doesn’t need to be cut to fit in.
Much has been made of the idea that an uncircumcised boy in our modern society could find himself ridiculed by other circumcised boys in locker rooms, causing serious psychological damage. Boys will find any excuse to make fun of each other and if it’s not the appearance of his penis, it will be something else. Providing a child with a combination of education, honesty and confidence is the best defense against this sort of teasing.
The rate of infant circumcision has been falling steadily since the 1980s, so an uncircumcised boy today may actually find himself in the majority. In 1996, the rate of circumcision in Canada was between three and six percent, falling from a high of 46 percent.
Another pro-cutting argument is the desire of the circumcised father to have his son look the same as him, but this is not so much for the benefit of the son as it is for the father. A boy will be capable of understanding the difference and the reason for it and may someday even thank his parents for giving him the choice his father never had.

Argument #6
Circumcision is painful and traumatic for babies.
Many circumcisers try to convince parents that babies are incapable of experiencing pain and even if they do feel it, they won’t remember it. In fact, scientific evidence proves that babies do feel pain and may feel it even more acutely than adults. Yet most circumcisions are performed without general anaesthesia, which is dangerous for children, and frequently without local anaesthesia in the form of shots or creams that cannot completely eliminate the pain anyway.
The pain of circumcision can have serious repercussions on the body of a newborn baby. Babies are known to scream hysterically, stop breathing, lose consciousness, vomit and defecate during the operation. The shock of the surgery can even cause ruptures of the heart, lungs and stomach.
The effects of this trauma can continue after the surgery is completed. Some babies experience severely disrupted sleep patterns, breastfeeding complications and interruptions of the infant- mother attachment process after circumcision.

Argument #7
There are serious potential complications to circumcision.
The rates of complications and accidents related to circumcision is nearly impossible to determine since hospitals are not required to report these incidents, but it is estimated to range from two to 10 percent, while at least one out of every 500 circumcisions results in a serious surgical accident.
The risks of circumcision include bleeding, infection, necrosis (the penis dies and falls off), gangrene, BXO, urinary tract infection, urinary retention, meatal ulceration or stenosis (the urinary opening is damaged, scarred or contracted), urethral fistula (an abnormal tube-like passage in the urethra), hypospadias or epispadias (when the urinary opening appears along the top or bottom of the penis rather than at the tip of the glans) and lymphedema (a swelling of the skin caused by a build-up of lymph fluid).
Botched circumcisions can result in buried penis (the penis retreats inside the body), adhesions, excessive skin loss, curvature of the penis, cysts, skin tags, pitting of the glans, scarring, impotence, amputation of the glans or the entire penis and even death.

Argument #8
We don’t mutilate the genitals of our baby girls.
Female genital mutilation (FGM) is practiced in many cultures around the world. The World Health Organization estimates that as many as two million girls each year are subjected to some sort of genital cutting, which may include amputation of the clitoris, the hood of the clitoris and/or the labia, as well as stitching closed the vaginal opening afterward. Three quarters of these cases occur in the countries of Egypt, Ethiopia, Kenya, Nigeria, Somalia and Sudan.
This kind of genital surgery is seen in the West as barbaric, tribal and torturous. Since the 1990s when FGM was first revealed to the North American public at large, major efforts have gone into eradicating the practice around the world. Yet we still expose our boys to similarly painful, traumatic and unnecessary surgery in North America as a matter of course.

Argument #9
I do not believe that those who have sex (hetero-or homo-) with a stranger they feel protected just because are circumcised, and should always use a condom. A nonsense. Condoms are better than 99% effective and if circumcision results in lower condom use, the rate of HIV infections will increase.

Argument #10
Religious tradition is a poor excuse to subject your baby to circumcision. The history of circumcision is a long and complicated one. As a symbolic ritual it appeared independently in many different ancient cultures around the world. It has been imbued with a variety of meanings—identifying a priestly class, indicating privilege, initiating boys into manhood and representing a commitment to God.

To conclude, I think that as in all the important choices (sexuality, religion, lifestyle, study, work, career) parents ought not take these decisions on their own and make choices that might not be shared by their children when they become adults, especially for those that are irreversible, such as circumcision.

A NEWS

Published April 22, 2013 by Tony

SEX IN THE CHURCH

I have read that there are polls determining who has sex in the strangest place and the couple who was arrested a few days ago, in the province of Livorno, could clinch the top spot in the standings.
In the afternoon of Tuesday, some believers who were in the cathedral of Cecina heard (unambiguous) moans coming from a confessional and horrified called the police.
Once at the church and opened the confessional, the agents found themselves in front of a half-naked couple engaged in a sexual intercourse. Although the two tried to escape, were arrested and charged with resisting at public officers and obscene acts in public.
Umm, if the case, they will participate in an upcoming poll when they will come out of jail.

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SEX IS HEALTHY

Published March 15, 2013 by Tony

HEALTH BENEFICTS OF SEX

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Some recent studies on sex show that it improves intellectual abilities and relieves headache’s symptoms.
Italian researchers at the University of Pavia, published a study that associates sex with the capabilities of the brain. By the tests conducted on various groups of couples, those who had a more intense sexual activity showed a greater nerve cells growth, which, as we know, is essential for body and mind’s well-being. This shows that frequent sex reduces stress and facilitate the functioning of the brain and thus of the intellect. These results, published in the German newspaper Berlin Zeitung, is related to the increase in prolactin that occurs during sexual activity and that improves cellular oxygenation in the brain.
These data are consistent with other researches linking sexual activity to physical and mental health. Among them, two Australian studies published in the International British Journal of Urology, whereof one showing that regular and numerous ejaculations reduce the risk of prostate cancer in men, and the other that a sexual satisfaction increases vitality and psychological well-being in women.
A healthy sexual activity is also able to relieve, in a partial or total way, the symptoms of headache, also when it comes to migraine or the worst ‘cluster headache’, as a recent study by the Department of Neurology at the University of Munster has demonstrated, after having analyzed the effects of the sexual activity on various forms of headache in 1,000 patients.

But, sex’s benefits do not end there, because other researches has shown that:
it helps to sleep;
activates the immune system and helps to be in shape;
in women decrease the risk of incontinence and defend the vaginal mucous membranes;
oxytocin and beta endorphins produced during sex, limit the action of stress hormones and this helps to keep our skin young and healthy, also protecting from the harmful effects of smoking and sun. A strong sex activity stimulates the production of oils in our body, helping the skin to stay elastic and hydrated;
in men hearty sex protects the heart and arteries due to higher testosterone production;

Is not that enough for you?
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