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DSM –

Published May 17, 2013 by Tony

EATING DISORDERS

The eating disorders are on the rise (a sort of DSM), especially among women, and not only among adolescents, because today even forties chase a stereotypical model of beauty, with the illusion of stopping time and find a sexier body.
In Italy, this problem affects 5% of women and becomes a social problem.
Yet, the death of Isabelle Caro, the French fashion model who made scandal for her photos for a campaign against anorexia, should serve as a warning.
In Italy, about 0.8% of the population suffer from anorexia, but a much greater proportion suffer from eating disorders, of which 9 out of 10 are female.
The true Anorexia leads women to get excited for their thinness, to maintain at all costs and become fasting-dependent. The next step is bulimia, a worse condition because it is not about thinness that can lead to death, but thru the bad and constant habit to eat and vomit or purging, even with the use of drugs.
The reflection is not to be done on standards of beauty but rather on the media mechanisms that induce these canons, especially for women at an age close to menopause. Once, at that age women no longer had the duty to express sexual signals, becoming free.
Today, also this freedom is vanishing.

How important the dimensions are

Published April 19, 2013 by Tony

Penis size influence male attractiveness

No doubt that the research of the ideal partner is done on an aesthetic basis, at least at first glance, because subjectively characteristics affect more than others do.
For example, according to woman preferences, in a man the physical prowess strikes more, like the size of the shoulders and musculature in general, besides the beauty of the face.
But for our ancestors, the prehistoric men, were these same princes worth?
Starting from the fact that our ancestors did not use clothes, a team of Australian biologists wondered if at that time, the male genital organ easily visible, fell within the parameters of choice of a potential partner. It’s to say if penis size interacts with body shape and height to influence male attractiveness.
It’s obvious that going around naked, the sexual organ could be evaluated and taken into account, the same way as other physical characteristics of a male subject.
In particular, the team was asking what role the penis size may have had for women in their partner choice. Given that man is the only primate to have a sexual organs bigger than other, this can be taken into consideration as an element that has been subject of evolution, that is to say that the choices that women did in the past, may have influenced the evolution of the partner, so that those who had a bigger penis was favored to the others. To see whether this kind of evolutionary heritage was still active today, the team of researchers at the University of Ottawa, has analyzed the importance that the penis traits gets in determining the level of a man’s attractiveness.
Using different animated images in 3D, full-size, about male bodies of different height, body shape and size of the penis, coming from a study of Italian men, the researchers recorded the preferences of 105 women chosen for the test.
It came out that in addition to prefer broad shoulders and narrow hips, also the size of the penis had been valued by women as a factor of attractiveness, and that in general the higher dimensions are considered more attractive, although up to certain values. Namely, the extreme dimensions (such as height or size of the penis) were no longer considered as attractive. Therefore, the size of the genital organs helps to determine the masculine appeal, and the study was published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences (PNAS). These results, furthermore, as authors say, lead to believe that in the past the women’s choices have driven the evolution to promote (genetically) bigger penis in humans, till to reach the existent average size.

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Gabriele D’Annunzio

Published March 8, 2013 by Tony

The aidoiomaniac D’Annunzio
An Intellectual More than a Playboy

Gabriele D'Annunzio

Gabriele d’Annunzio (1863 -1938), also known as “il Vate” (the prophet), was an Italian writer, poet, politician and journalist, who coming from a middle class family became a symbol of the Italian Decadence and famous for his compositions as well as for his particular sexual habits.
Porco alato e geniale” (Pig winged and genius), he described himself, while biographers addressed him as “Genius and recklessness“.  Among the aspects of the writer’s Decadence, there is aestheticism art, or art conceived as Beauty which must be above all; the practical aestheticism, according to which also the life must be realized in absolute freedom, outside and above every law and moral restraint; the panismo which is the tendency to surrender to the life of the senses and instincts, and finally the man as “superman“, the ruler of a world beyond good and evil, where instinct is the only truth because morality is a lie, and where the man that resembles the beast then outdoes man, beyond human becoming hero, while getting rid of the ethics that prohibits lust, he can dare everything that gives pleasure. A description, this, that is very close to the aberrant “Superman” concept conceived by Nietzsche.

Already in his youth, d’Annunzio showed an ambitious and uninhibited character and, in fact, at sixteen already had his first sexual experience. In Florence, during a school trip, he evaded janitor’s surveillance and with a gold wristwatch, a gift of his grandfather, paid a prostitute with whom he wished to have sex.
In 1881 he moved to Rome to continue his studies at the university, where,  trying to reach fame and glory, attended worldly circles of Roman salons, beginning to appreciate the sumptuous and scandalous lives of the rich bourgeoisie, through adventures and love stories. His exceptional sexuality blew and he will earn in emotions and sex delights, even if this entailed moral values violation. According to some biographers, his actual d'Annunzio at 10 yearsmistresses were hundred and fifty. Half a thousand for some, and even four thousand according to others, with the inevitable cocaine snorting.

As the biographers say, this “sex superman” really did not love all those women, except perhaps, a little bit, Maria Hardouin and Eleonora Duse. Maria Hardouin was the daughter of Giulio, Duke of Gallese, who d’Annunzio married at 20 years in 1883, probably for reasons of interest and because of noble rank. They had met a few years earlier and a love at first sight, but even though a minor, during a walk the lecherous man took her to a grove, on the outskirts of Rome, and deflowered her. Among the collection of poems “Intermezzo di rime” also is included “Peccato di maggio“, in which the writer described in detail what happened in the woods. The young Duchess soon became pregnant, raising a scandal. The Duke Giulio, furious, vetoed the marriage and denounced d’Annunzio for corruption of minors, despite his wife, Mary’s mother, called for a shotgun wedding. In response, the two lovers fled together and got married in a hurry, but without the consent of the duke, who did not want to see anymore both his daughter and the son-in-law.

A marriage that will last long but unfortunate for the young lady, also if from their union were born three children. “My dear Gabriele was a husband physically incapable of being faithful,” the Duchess bitterly confessed later, when after the third child will separate from him. In fact, the new series of post-marriage lovers began immediately with the journalist Olga Roman Ossani, then followed by Elvira Natalia Fraternali, estranged wife of Count Ercole Leoni, although in the meantime the writer were not shirking to his conjugal “duty”. Hard days for Elvira because meantime the “supreme Vate”  had already set his sights on the Sicilian Princess Maria Gravina Cruyllas Ramacca, which he called a “erotic nymphomaniac”. A good match! In a tormented relationship lasted three years, the Sicilian princess gave birth to two children, Ariel’s sons (the personal nickname of the poet), who legitimated only the first child. It was 1895 when he began his relationship with the famous actress Eleonora Duse, who was in search of a true love and believed to have found it by Ariel. And the illusion of love will cost her dearly, and not just for the money that the loved boyfriend snatched her by deception, but because while she was sacrifying her prestige, exposing herself to the audience boos, he already was enjoying with a new paramour, the young actress Juliet Gordigiani. Actress, young and beautiful, but poor and this was not good for him that needed rich women. “I forgive him to Maria Gravina with the daugtherhave abused of myself, ruined and humiliated me. I forgive everything because I loved him”,  Duse said when left him definitively.

After a while, the tireless lover found another right woman, Alessandra Starabba Rudini, twenty-eight beautiful and rich, widow of the Marquis Carlotti.
His biographers say that in three years of living together, the great showman D’Annunzio got by the Marchesa Rudini amounts ten times higher than the one extorted to Duse in nine years. The last two years were very sad for the marquise because fell seriously ill, but meanwhile, the host had already a new mistress for giving vent to his inexhaustible lust, the Countess Josephine Mancini.
However, when he was no longer able to cope with the many creditors, decided it was time for a change of scenery and moved alone to Paris. The great seducer had already chosen the appropriate girlfriend to live and work peacefully in Paris, the Russian countess (French by adoption) Natalia de Goloubeff, 27, separated from her husband, who welcomed him at her home in Paris. The combination was perfect, he needed money and she sex.
Fool of the blackest Slavic massacre,” he said about her, as she considered him “crazy for sex and beautiful women, virile and perfumed as few“. But, as soon as her financial resources were lost, due to the Bolshevik revolution in Russia, Ariel left her. During the last of the five years spent in Paris, he had some French sex playmates, as Marie de Regnier and Amélie Mazoyer, his housekeeper nicknamed Aelis (24 years less than the prophet), who followed him in Italy, when he returned in 1915 to become a soldier, enlisting as a volunteer during the First World War.
Besides devotion, one of Aelis’s quality that d’Annunzio appreciated more, especially with the passing of years, was a not common skill for fellatio, hence her nickname Aelis from helice, “helix” in French. “She has a beautiful mouth, in addition to the hand that gives oblivion,” Gabriele said of her.
During the conflict he lost partial vision in one eye, but as a man of theater, he participated more in the war performing on the stage, representing his true and false war actions, rather than by real.
In 1921, in Gardone, in the picturesque scenery of Lake Garda, d’Annunzio found the house of his dreams: a large villa of 36 rooms, which he titled the “Vittoriale of the Italians”.  After the restoration work, carried out with the financial support of Mussolini, he made it a national monument, donating it to the Italian State for paying his debts.
Mussolini also gave him what the bourgeois writer always had dreamed, Eleonora Duseproposing him for a nobiliar title, then conferred in 1924 by King Vittorio Emanuele III, letting he became the Prince of Montenevoso.

In spite of his advanced age, in those years other lovers followed, as the writer from Trieste Olga Levi Brunner,  the Venetian pianist Luisa Bàccara, and a certain Leila, all younger than him.
In that palace-mausoleum, the Prince of Montenevoso spent the last seventeen years of his mad and adventurous life, with profound suffering for his physical decline, often expressed by behavioral oddities and excessive frugality or sullenness, but always obsessed by sex, by frantic search of pleasure, eroticism and lust, and now even devoting more himself in masturbation, despite the age.
The last two women that remained close to him, were the faithful Aélis and Bàccara, forced to watch also to his bleak and dismal degradation, like satyr erotic rites that the seventy year old man organized from time to time. Gabriele d’Annunzio, the magician of perversion, among other things also invented the macabre eroticism, while lying naked in a coffin some prostitutes, also naked, kissed him from head to toe. Although nothing is written about, it is said that the teacher did not disdained others pervy sex affairs like pissing, shitting, and that maybe took away two ribs to better practice self-fellatio, all things truly uncommon for that era.
Gabriele d’Annunzio died at 75 years for a brain hemorrhage, and at his funeral, as well as Mussolini, attended his wife with three children, Amélie Mazoyer and Luisa Baccara, (Duse had died 14 years before). As he had Amélie Mazoyerdecided, was buried in the small temple of the Holocaust, on top of the Vittoriale.

D’Annunzio was not handsome, neither rich, nor reliable, and for this arises the question, what did so many ladies, rich and beautiful, drive in his arms?!
Probably, the famous American dancer Isadora Duncan was right, saying about him, “a lover so great as to turn the most ordinary woman, and give her for a moment the appearance of a celestial being?”
The perverse lover designed by himself some clothes and then gave them to women, from time to time, to wear and represent the erotic scene that he had chosen. Clothes that transformed them in moths ready to burn devoutly wings to his flame. Only the sinuous and fatal painter Tamara de Lempicka was able to sneak out from the arms of the famous satyr.
In his house also special perfumes and incense were not lacking, as well as a well equipped wardrobe in which were found two hundred silk shirts, fifty hats  two hundred pairs among shoes and boots, three hundred pairs of socks, fifty silk pajamas and gowns, and boxes with vagina’s hairs that he kept in memory of his mistresses. Just “an animal of luxury” as he called himself.  “When D’Annunzio loves a woman, exalts and elevates the soul above the earth, to the divine regions where moves and shines Dante’s Beatrice. From time to time, he let women participate in the divine essence and leads so high as to cause them to imagine they are really on the same level of Beatrice… there was a time in Paris, where the cult of D’Annunzio touched dizzying heights and they were all famous beauties to love him. But when the whim of the poet ended, he abandoned his mistress on duty for another“, so Mrs. Duncan wrote in her memoirs, who had with d’Annunzio an intense but short relationship.
In fact, it was always him to tire of the most beautiful and passionate women.
His only fault, if it can be defined so, was the bad habit of wasting considerable wealth for voluptuous things, and for this he is often found in bad waters and full of debt,  for which in 1910, there will seizure and sale of his goods.

The women he met, young and old, were all at his feet, happy to be desired by the most famous “tombeur de femmes” of Italian literature, ready to give herself to him body and soul, and that in addition to opening their legs, also opened their bags to pay his debts.
If it is not for wellness or charm, then why that? This is a good reason to suppose that D’Annunzio was a gifted, moreover, in an old Italian porno film, during the pioneer and illegal pornography period, among other collaborators in the captions is also read the name of Gabriele D’Annunzio. Of course, besides the use of the word, he knew how to use his sexual organ that he called “gonfalon selvaggio” (wild flag), and his exceptional libido led him to have, evidently, sexual performance record, or more intercourse without long breaks, and not for nothing that he was labeled “thirsty for sex“, all things that, alas, ravish many women.

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Sex Freedom & BDSM

Published May 26, 2012 by Tony

Fifty shades of Grey

While media and social columns report that women, girlfriends and wives are often abused, raped or killed, on the other side, they signal the success of the book “Fifty shades of Grey” in which, on the contrary, it is spoken of female desire to be submissive, where publishers have vied to have the exclusive. “Submission” that, in this case, is synonymous with violence and a couple of steps before the ego killing. The echo of the discussions around this best-selling book came to us, and the Mondadori publishing grabbed this first part of the hot trilogy of the author E. L. James, with the Italian version to be released in a few days. For some, this is a post-pornographic novel that uncovers the hidden desires of American mothers (or mommy-porn, the epithet used in USA), a generation of women now conscious and free to say whatever they want. The Marquis De Sade and the evolution of the female emancipation have even been mentioned, also if the plot of the book simply refers to Anastasia, a young girl who falls into the clutches of Grey, a man in career rich and handsome, who, however, derives sexual pleasure only by strong practices of subjugation and BDSM, where he is the dominant subject. The facto is that the helpless and innocent virgin, initiated to such practices, rather than give up and flee, she plays the game and likes to be submissive, repeatedly and willingly getting in what she calls the “red room of pleasure“, but then the situation reverses. The subordination is reversed and the total submission becomes ransom (?). This has sparked criticism and fantasies of feminist or post-feminist with some who have transposed this story as a demonstration of their emancipation, as saying that the act of submission is a free choice of themselves and therefore an act of freedom, “cogito ergo sum”.  The debate sparked by the book can be summarized by Katie Roiphe’s words, the editorial Newsweek writer: <the submission is a women’s dream because these fantasies give a relief and a moment of escape from the hard work of being equal to men >. Some psychologists and ethologists speak of a return to origins, the longing of a brutal male as it was in prehistory or, instead, a simple choice of an “animal-woman” towards an “animal-male”, in order to ensure what the evolution asks: genetic heritage, protection and sustenance. At this point, we should understand whether this voluntary decision to be sexually “subjected” to man, it is to say, if this submission, which in most cases is only a fantasy or perversion of the imagination, and that from involuntary becomes voluntary and premeditated, is then indeed a moment of emancipation and redemption for women or if, instead, is just a way to release ancestral sexual inhibitions, with the pleasure to infringe the prohibitions. The submissions has a double face, is slippery and can turn into a violence alibi. Furthermore, where there is subordination can be no full freedom. This doesn’t means that, like man, woman can be dissolute, licentious, fond of pleasure without limits and give vent to erotic fantasies, even if this has always been stigmatized by the moralists of turn. Myself, personally, beyond such a fuss, am more favorable to this conclusion because I’ve always been an avid supporter of free sex with no taboos, and in this case even this discussion would have no sense, because we will speak nevermore about dominant or submission, weaker sex or perversion, but simply and solely of SEX, done as anyone likes to do it, and not for this tried and convicted. But I realize that we are very, very far from such a conception.

European Women Wishlist

Published May 25, 2012 by Tony

Sex or Holiday
Women wishes list

A survey conducted by the site “Lastminute.com” in six European countries (England, Ireland, France, Spain, Italy, Germany), lays bare the wishes-list of participants.
Whether it’s an adventurous trip or an amorous affair, we all fantasize with open eyes and have dreams, but thanks to this survey, it is interesting to find out if women indulge more frequently in thinking about journeys or other. This statistic shows how many times a day women think of faraway destinations:

italy Italian 1.63
spain Spanish 1.75
french French 1.51
german German 1.29
irish Irish 1.12
uk English 1.00

Low values indicate that the women are clearly focused  on other “wishes”, and Italian women, even if fiercest “dreamers”, lose the primacy of “warm” women who indulge in “hot” thoughts.  As the following rates shows, at the first place they are, oddly enough, the Irish women, while women from France and Spain are too busy to think about traveling rather than fantasize about sex. Thank goodness, in the “male universe” it still is the “old good sex” the main protagonist of the wishes.

irish Irish 1.73
uk English 1.40
german German 1.33
italy Italian 1.32
french French 1.23
spain Spanish 1.18